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Half Way

January 17, 2018

There is so much intention that never fully gets the quality time that it deserves. I intended on stopping by this blog multiple times over the past few months, yet here I am, half way through January 2018 and I am just now stopping in. I could say the cliché first time mom things like "Oh I just didn't have time", "Adilynn keeps me so busy", "I just wanted to spend time with her".
Yet the truth of the matter is that I allowed other things to take precedence over this blog. Those other things meaning social media, TV, laying in bed playing candy crush...you get the picture. Its pretty interesting to stop and think about the time that we have and where exactly it goes from day to day. Definitely can be eye opening in some areas. I often find myself complaining that I didn't have time to do this or wasn't able to do that when in reality, I had the time, I just didn't utilize it in the right ways.

The news on facebook coming from so many businesses about how the facebook algorithm is changing made me think. The creator of facebook has said that the change is so that people spend less time on social media and more time in real life. Sounds great right? We get to see more from our families and less from all the crazy ads that pop up, but how sad that he felt he had to change the game because of the amount of time people spend on it.

So here I am. Utilizing the time that I have to sit and write...about nothing great, life changing, beautiful, or eye opening. I'm just here to write. To spend my time in a way that makes me happy and brings me some comfort at the end of a long day. Half way through January and I'm hoping to make this a regular thing. We shall see if I can prioritize my time.

My Trunk, My Trunk, My Lovely Lady Trunk

October 17, 2017

Well, it has officially been over a year since I last went shopping for clothes that are my normal size. Pregnancy does a good number to the body over those 9 months and well beyond. Here we are 9 months post baby and I have yet to get my closet back in order. I got so use to wearing my clothes a few sizes too big that now, that's all I have. Since there isn't really that much time to take a baby shopping with me, especially considering I am over an hour away from any real shopping, I decided to give the Nordstrom Trunk service a try.

I have come to find that I am extremely picky when it comes to clothes but yet I don't know what I'm picky about. If you asked me to give my style a name, it would be named random. I like to try to find stylish pieces but almost always end up with basics more than anything really trendy. So I figured it was time to ask for some professional help.

The thing I like about the Nordstrom Trunk service is that they send you 10 items. I didn't feel like I was limited to a certain number and each piece went with something else in my trunk. If I am going to spend the money on clothes, I like that I would have options for how to piece those items together. My stylist Alexandra was very helpful in picking my brain and looking through my information that I submitted about myself. I can tell that if we keep working together, she is going to send me more pieces that I can't say no to.

I was a little off on my sizes which was nice but also sad because I sent quite a few things back for that reason. I'm hoping that now I can work on getting things tailored to my body and not wear bags as clothes. I love that in this past trunk, Alex tried to take me out of my comfort zone on a few pieces. I ended up downloading the trunk app to keep up with our conversations and I'm so glad that I did. It allows me to upload pictures of items that I love and gives her a better idea of what type of styles I see myself in. 


You can review your trunk before it is sent which I love because the items I asked her not to send were items that I already had something like or that I knew I wouldn't like. It is sent in a cute trunk like box an the clothing is prepared for you to try it all on immediately. I couldn't contain my excitement but in that excitement I forgot to take pictures so you get screen shots of the outfits Alexandra put together for me via the app.

I ended up keeping one of the items from my trunk this time around. Which one do you think I went with?

When You Might Lose It All

October 16, 2017

The news stories about these natural disasters hitting different areas of our world are absolutely devastating. To see the pictures and the videos of the destruction just breaks my heart. Last month when Hurricane Harvey hit, I feel as though my life and views on things were forever altered.

The city that we live in is on the coast of Texas. It’s like one day, Harvey was a small storm brewing and the next thing we know, it has turned into a major hurricane ready for landfall. The schools began to let parents know that it would be canceled and teachers started getting ready to leave town. When I got home after work that Thursday, I packed a small bag for Adi and myself, grabbed all the pictures and disks with pictures that I could and threw them in my car. I thought we would be back in a few days but wanted to be prepared in case something happened to our house. We drove to my sister and mom’s house and waited.
As Harvey hit in a city nearby, there was a sense of relief. Our home would be spared and we could return home to our little life. Unfortunately, the town that we live in has a big river running through it and that river meets up with the ocean. So all the water that had been released from Harvey built up and was going to be coming our way. An emergency meeting was had in our town and they ordered a mandatory evacuation to leave because our whole town was going to be underwater. WHAT? Just a few days before it was just a little rain forecasted. Now, our town was going to be underwater? It was such a roller coaster ride. We’re ok, no we aren’t, yes we’re good, nope not yet.

When M called me to let me know the town was projected to be under 10 feet of water, he started packing. He called me at 3am and started asking what I wanted to save. Ya’ll, I sat there in silence for almost a minute and said “nothing”. There wasn’t one thing that I could think of that I could not live without besides my sweet girl and my husband. 

It put a lot into perspective for me sitting there, 180 miles from my home and everything I own at 3 am in the morning, telling my husband I couldn't think of one "thing" that I needed him to save. I think the idea of our house being complete submerged in water and the life we had built in those walls washing away with the river was sobering. As we sat and talked and tried to think about what we would need to last us for the next few days, maybe weeks, maybe months, I found myself thinking that it was all just stuff. It could be replaced or it might not even need to be replaced. Those things just didn't mean as much to me as I thought they might when I was faced with the idea of losing it all. 

The roller coaster ended about a week later when I was finally able to go home to a house that was spared any water damage, a town that faced very little damage, and a new perspective on the things that I own or the money that I spend on things that I think I need. I think knowing I had my sweet girl and all of the pictures I have ever taken gave me a little piece of mind but when I got back home, there were things that I never even thought of that might have been good to take. If you were in my shoes, what would you have grabbed?

Five on Friday | Hi friends

September 22, 2017

July. Was it really July went I last sat down at the computer to type out random nothingness here on With Grace? My blog roll would say yes but I would say "Where in the world is the time going"? I can give you one hint...baby sleep. Or shall I say lack there of....or maybe not even lack there of...but sleep randomness. Phew. 

But that is all beside the point. I'm here to join in on the 5 on Friday fun. Or Friday Five fun... or whatever blogland calls a friday post these days. So here goes nothing. 

1. Baby Sleep. The past few months have been consumed by sleep. Either me being worried about sleep, me hoping she sleeps, lack of sleep, prayers for sleep, actual sleep and all the sleep in between. I read a quote by Chrissy Tiegan that said "why is putting something that is already tired to sleep so hard" or something along those lines. #preach.
2. Photography. I decided once I found out that I was pregnant with Adilynn that I would put my photography aside and call it quits. Turns out that having a baby makes you realize how important photography truly is, so I am officially back at it. I am hoping to do a rebrand, launch my website, and start sharing more of my photography here with you all. If you don't mind. 
3. Dave Ramsey. My husband and I have been following some of Dave's advice and holy smokes. Our life has forever been changed. In just a few months we have paid off one of our cars and my medical bills from having Adi. It's amazing what you have left when you are intentional with your money. 

4. Car Seat. I think it's time to change Adilynn from her carry carseat to a big girl carseat. How did you know it was time for your kiddos? I worry about her falling asleep in there but she loves to look out the window and enjoy what we're driving by. Any tips? 

5. Weekend Plans. I'm going back and forth on if I should take a road trip to visit family this weekend. We shall see how we feel Saturday when we wake up. 

Happy Friday friends. I hope it's your best one yet. 


July

July 6, 2017

Let me just go ahead and bow down to my stay at home mommas who rock this whole momma gig because it is not for the faint of heart. I have learned so much about our sweet girl and so much about myself as a mother. There have definitely been tears shed and days of wondering if I am screwing our sweet girl up but those sweet smiles and moments of snuggling....melt my heart. I am so thankful that I have this time with her as I know most people aren't afforded that chance with their sweet babies. I promise I am cherishing the moments, the smiles, and the snuggles. As quick as June went, it seems like July is going to go even faster. These are my focus points for this month. 

Marriage.

I truly think this is where I am falling short day to day and I'm not afraid to admit that. My focus, during the day and in the evening is Adi. By the time I get her settled in bed, this momma is tired so I usually go straight to bed. M and I stayed up late the other night just talking and it made me realize how much I miss him. That's just not ok.

Adi

This little ham has her momma wrapped around her finger already. This is my ladt month with her before I head back to work so I want to make the most of it. Introduce her to new foods, take her to see family, go explore, and just enjoy this precious time with her that I know I'll never get back. 

Self.

I'm definitely a work in progress because finding the balance is hard. I've got so many areas that I feel like need my attention that taking care of me definitely gets pushed to the back burner. I want to give up some of my control and learn that my way isn't always the right way and that other people can help out to give me a little break. I'm going to happily work on this during July. 

Spending.

M and I have spent many nights these past few weeks talking about some goals we have for our little family down the road. We know that there are things we want to be able to do for Adi and any little siblings she has down the road and in order to do those things, we have to change how we are living now. So we are working on cutting back our spending, paying off car debt, and saving through a system to ensure we are setting ourselves up for success later down the road. Hey, if being able to pay for our children's college (if that's what they wish to do with their life) means less spending now on clothes, shoes, and other items I don't "need" then so be it. 

Friends. 

I saw a meme on facebook the other day that is me to a T. It basically said "I'm the friend who wants to be invited even though I probably won't come". At least I'm aware that I'm not the best friend out there right? Doesn't make it any better. I want to work on friendships this month. Particularly my side of them. Showing up when I've said I would, calling/texting just because and not just when I need something, and just taking better care of the precious friendships I have. 

Reading. 

Adi has decided that in order to nap, she must be in momma's arms. I don't hate that at all but refreshing my social media apps every 3 minutes got old. Thankfully I had downloaded book seven of the Outlander series and have gotten wrapped up in the lives of Jamie and Claire all over again. It really is an amazing series. I like getting lost in their world as I hold mine. 

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