Life Lessons from Adilynn

October 16, 2018

When I look at Adilynn and I can't help but imagine all that is in store for her. She seems to grow and learn so much each and every day that each morning she wakes up this totally new person who has precious new tricks to practice and show-off. I envy this about her, as I tend to wake up thinking of all the things that happened yesterday, last week, last month, where she wakes up and is just happy to be ready for another day (as long as mommy gets her milk and muffins for her immediately). I was looking at this photo of the two of us and started thinking about all that she has taught me over the past 20 months and just had to write it all out for the world (me) to read. 

Failure isn't permanent.

Let's face it, if we had to learn to walk like babies do, after a few times of falling down, we might just resort ourselves to the fact that we just weren't meant to walk. Babies don't understand the complexity that is walking and how much it will impact their life, yet they push through the falls, the aggravation, the frustration to keep trying until they get it. Oh how I wish I had that kind of tenacity. To know that even when failure presents itself that it's not the end all. In fact, it's just part of the stepping stone to being a master in whatever I am working on. 

If we just listen, we can learn so much. 

Adilynn copies things that I say, even when I wish she wouldn't. I will find her sitting near me, seeming as though she's not paying attention and then she will either jibber jabber in response to me or repeat words back that I had just said. When I'm talking to her, especially when I say "Adi, listen to mommy" she gives me her undivided attention, looks me in my eyes and just listens. Sometimes, most of the time, people just need us to listen. They don't need our own stories, our opinion, or even thoughts on what they should do. They just need to talk it out with someone who will listen. 

Love without Expectations

The fact of the matter is that Adi doesn't care if I knocked out my to do list at work, that I failed in my reaction to a tough situation, or that I didn't go for a run that day. She loves me regardless. She has no expectations for me to be this perfect human-being for her. She just cares that at the end of the day, I walk into that daycare, grab her into my arms and smother her in kisses. She cares that I read her her favorite book at least 5 times a night and that I sing her to sleep every. single. night because she loves me so much. She doesn't love the school counselor me, the wife me, or the friend me. She doesn't care about my failures that I tend to focus on. Instead, she just loves that I'm her momma and that I love her. 

Who cares. 

That should probably have a question mark after it but really....who cares. Why does it matter if you make mistakes? If your opinion isn't the popular opinion? If you aren't the best version of yourself every day? To be honest, babies could care less about any of those things. And ultimately, we (me) as adults need to remember this. All too often, I find myself thinking that people actually care about what I am doing. It's human nature to think that our little lives are bigger than they really are. But in the grand scheme of things, the choices that I make every day should benefit myself and the way that I hope that the man upstairs sees me. 

I could go on and on, but I'll end there for now. I needed to slow down and remind myself of all that is around me to learn and grow from in the heart of that sweet baby girl who fell asleep to my awful singing and loves me anyways. 

Who is Your One?

September 29, 2018



One by Kathryn Otoshi

One of my favorite guidance lessons to go through with my students involves this book. I love getting to read it to them and watch as it slowly clicks on what this book about. After we're done reading it, we talk about how they can be the "ONE" in someone else's life and what that means. 

I think that part of the reason that I love this lesson so much is because I can think of several people who have been the one for me in my life. Whether it was saving me from making bad choices, picking me up during some of my darkest times, or just standing next to me for support when I didn't even know that I needed it. Those "ones" are more precious to me than anything else in this world. 

What about you? Who has been "the one" in your life? Has there been someone who has made a difference in your life and helped shape you into who you are today? Have you told that person that they have made a difference in your life and how? I can promise you that it will be one of the most powerful and emotional conversations you can have if you take the time to tell that person. 

My Places Bucket list | The editable version

September 10, 2018

One of the many things that I am so thankful my parents did for my siblings and I is that they spent their money taking us on adventures. We didn't have the latest and the greatest of everything but we have memories that will forever last us a lifetime. I think that this is part of the reason that I have a travel bug and love to explore new places. When I think of all the places I want to visit, it makes me excited for all that is still left in life to experience. Here are just a few that have been on my mind lately. 

In the United States:

Chicago

Chicago is just one of those places that feels like a "must visit" place. Is there anything in particular that I want to do or explore there? Not necessarily. I just feel as though I would enjoy the atmosphere, the food, and the 

Washington D. C

The funny thing about this is that I've actually been to D.C twice already. Once when I was in 8th grade for a trip with my school and once to celebrate the 4th of July. I think if I had the chance, I would go back and do the exact tours and itinerary that we used for my 8th grade trip. I loved the museums and the sequence that we saw them in. I am hoping they have something like this for when I do finally get another chance to visit. 

Nashville

This goes without saying. I feel like Nashville is just a staple in the US and a must visit for any and all country music fans. It would make it better if Cody Johnson were playing the same time that we went. I do enjoy me some country music and being able to experience it there would be amazing. 

Colorado

Michael took me on my first ever ski trip the first Christmas that we were together and I have been hooked ever since. We went to Red River so I would love to experience skiing at a resort in Denver and anything else my friends/blog friends suggest. 

Outside of the United States:

Paris

I will make this happen one day. There is no ifs, ands, or buts about that. I think Paris is one of those places that you just have to experience at some point in your life. I can't wait to be wrapped up in the culture, the oldness, the atmosphere. Now if I could just talk Michael into going along with me. 

Australia

There is something so interesting to me about what Australia has to offer. I'm not exactly sure what I would want to do there but I would love to just be able to experience it. 

South Africa

Cals, I'm coming for you. The fact that one of my favorite blog friends lives here is a huge reason why I want to go here. Not only to see her (although lets be honest, that is really my main reason for adding this to my list) but I would love to experience the South Africa that she knows and loves. 


It makes me excited that for some of these trips, I will get to take Adilynn along and allow her the opportunity to experience adventure the way that I as able to. Is there anywhere else that you think I must visit? Tell me some of your places you are looking forward to visiting one day. 

10 Years From Now

September 5, 2018

When you think about it, 10 years, a decade, seems like such a long amount of time. Like, surely 10 years means I have so much time to do all the tedious little things I want to do. But yet here I am, almost 10 years into my career and there are days when I feel like I just started this whole education gig. 

So when I think about 10 years from this very moment, it seems like such a long way away. Surely I have all the time in the world to get me from point A to point B. But knowing how quickly these last few years have gone, I know that each moment will tick away faster than I think. 

A few interesting facts about 10 years from now


  • I will be 41...what the what...that's just not possible
  • Adi will be 11 going on 12...I mean what is this life
  • Michael and I will have been married for 16 years...together for 21 years. I can't even. 
  • Tilly and Lucy (our dogs) will be 19 and 16 years old...yes dogs can live that long....
  • Iphones will be invisible and we will text in our heads
  • We will all be flying around in our cars. 


Ok... too much on the last 2 but still. So much can change in 10 years. We as people change. Our focus and where we spend our energy WILL change. What is important to us will change. It's like asking water to stay the shape of a glass once the glass has tipped over. So what's in store for me by or in 2028? That's such a hard question. I want to do so many little things that I have a hard time narrowing the path of "what ifs" to what I truly see myself doing. 

Work

Option 1: I would be working at a college as a professor. I know that this is my end goal at some point. I want to impact the educational world on a deep level and motivating, supporting, and encouraging new teachers on this path would be a dream come true. Now if only I could talk Michael into moving to a city where there is a college closer than an hour away.... 

Option 2: I would be an assistant principal. If you have ever had a discussion with me about education, you would know that this was never part of my grand plan. I wanted to teach forever, be a counselor at an elementary school for a little while, and then end my educational career at the high school level supporting high school students discover who they want to be. 

Option 3: I would have my own counseling clinic and help adults in various aspects of their life. Whether it be marriage counseling, grief counseling, or just plain counseling. I use to think that this would have "children" in front of it but the older I get, the more I feel called to help other adults like myself who just need someone to talk to. 

Personal

Family. I wish I was one of those people who could say that I've always dreamed of a certain number of children or that I was a girl mom or a boy mom. But the truth is that I always just wanted to be a mom in whatever form, shape, size that looked like. I feel so content with being a mom to Adilynn that I'm not sure what it looks like for our family in the form of siblings. I picture us getting to travel with her and take her on adventures as she continues to grow. So for now, that is where my focus is. Giving her adventures that she might not ever remember but that I can share with her as she continues to grow. 

Location. This has been weighing on my mind more than usual for some reason. I have loved where we live currently. I have the best of friends, we have a beautiful piece of land with a house that has given us a roof over our head, and we live by the ocean. Not sure I could have checked off more boxes if I had tried but there is something about where we are that doesn't feel like our forever location. I see Michael and I having a home on a big piece of property where our kids (or kid) can roam, explore, enjoy, and just be. And the same for me. 

Me. I hope that over the next 10 years, I continue to find my strength when I need it, learn more about what my voice is worth, and become an all around better version of myself. Life lessons, situations, trials, and triumphs continue to shape the person I am. I learn hard lessons through those trials and gain tremendous knowledge in the triumphs. 

I hope that no matter what comes my way, that I continue to stand strong in my faith, my values, and my love of my family. Cheers to the next 10 years friends. 

September Goals | Clear Priorities

September 4, 2018

Hello little space of mine. Oh how I have missed you. It's been a whirlwind of a few months but I keep coming back to this little space of mine, hoping that one day, I will be able to put in the time and effort that I once did. I'm so thankful to my friend Kait over at CommuniKait posted a while back about getting back to the basics of blogging and I'm more than happy to join in. I started this little place (a few different names ago) and made some great friends from posting about things that were on my heart and 


Family

Time

Affirmations


Having the summer off with Adilynn was my absolute favorite. We went got to visit with family at the lake, went to DisneyWorld in Florida, had lots of beach trips, and spent quite a bit of time at the zoo. It was so good for my momma soul and precious moments that I know I will remember forever. Now that school has started back, I am having to be very intentional about where I spend my time. I want to ensure that she feels just as special now as she did this summer, and the same goes for Michael.

Running

45 total miles for the month

4 miles under 40 minutes


I have been making running a big part of my weeks consistently since the beginning of July. From the consistency, there has been big changes in my energy, my body, and my mindset. I started out not being able to run even half a mile, to now being able to run a 5K around 30 minutes (depending on if I'm pushing Adilynn or not). I am so motivated by the changes that I have seen and I am looking forward to hitting new goals with cooler weather. 


School

Complete my Class Video

Update Hours Log

Complete Class Number 3


I have been working on getting my Principal certification through the college that I received my masters from and woowee it has been so great but so hard. These classes have really made me focus my priorities and outline my to do lists to keep me on track. This current class has a lot to do it but we are already on week 2. I love being back in school but also am thankful that it is only 18 hours and not a full masters. 


Work

Guidance Lessons

Affirmations


It has been so great to be back at work and back into the routine of it. The year is really off to a great start and I am so looking forward to seeing what it has in store. I have a renewed excitement about my position as the school counselor and am looking forward to being there for the students on my campus more than ever before. 


Personal

Attend a football game

Read a book

Begin a Bible study- thanks Kaitlyn


Just recently I was able to listen to a Ted Talks speaker on just living life. She created this graphic that says "I don't have enough time clear priorities". I live my life thinking there isn't enough time to do the things I want to. When in reality, I have all the time in the world, I just choose (or subconsciously choose) to spend my time and energy in the wrong places. I keep her graphic as my lock screen on my watch so that I can be reminded that my priorities must take precedence over all the small, insignificant stuff. So here is to me trying to set my priorities in action by writing them down to hold me accountable. It's going to be a great month! 

Happy Monday friends